Now that you know WHO the Master behind the Man is, it’s time to talk about WHAT is Master of Man? What value does this concept and project provide to you and others who join the journey?
If you’re like me, you’re asking these questions in that silly sarcastic voice we have in our head when we’re facetiously questioning what it is we’re reading or about to read… “What’s this nonsense about”? (mine has a British accent for some reason…)
Our objective here is not to master all men, our objective is to master just one… YOU. Or, to be frank, you might be a WOman who desires to continually become a better version of yourself. Semantics don’t matter, “Master of Man” is simply a concept and not a misogynistic declaration. Unless, of course, you’re a feminist looking for misogyny to complain about. In which case you’re probably not all that into personal growth as opposed to demanding legislation of a collective ideology be forced upon the masses, one that ironically seeks to eliminate the idea of the “individual”… but I digress.
I’m a conservative by nature. Does this mean I have it out for feminists? No. I feel bad for them actually. So why does this matter and what does it have to do with answering the question “What is Master of Man”? The reason I divulge that I am a conservative is not to discuss politics, or pick a fight with feminists… it’s to let you in on the foundation of my world view, which is this… the idea of the individual is the most sovereign idea that exists. I knew this in my soul but I didn’t have the words to articulate it until I was listening to a podcast by a world renowned clinical psychologist and university professor. That’s when it hit me; that statement alone all but defines my world view and how I’ve become who I am today.
So, what exactly is “Master of Man”? This is a medium where I can use my experience and talents to help other people follow that deep striving they feel to pursue greatness within themselves. For me that striving was felt in the form of anger… frustration… desire… just this simple notion in my gut that the way I was told the world was wasn’t necessarily how it is, or how it should be.
I was starving for some truth, something to feed my soul and pull me forward toward greater things. After all, was I put on this earth just to perform a certain number of menial tasks each day, collect my salary… then go home, eat my part of the food, drive on my side of the road, breathe my part of the oxygen, THEN DIE.. and HOPE I lived a worthwhile life?
No way. What the hell kind of life is that?
Whether you believe in God, the Universe, Karma, or ancient aliens there is one universal truth we need to accept… you were designed to adapt to constant change, turmoil and GROWTH.
Are you surprised I didn’t say greatness? Are you even a little bit curious why I didn’t? Keep reading…
I didn’t say GREATNESS because, while we are ALL CAPABLE of greatness, greatness is a choice… and it has a price tag not many are willing to pay. Now… do I mean a price tag like grinding 20 hours a day, losing your spouse, your kids, your friends and making enemies out of your co-workers because “it’s lonely at the top”? Uh, no… if you ARE that person, know that person or you’ve heard of that person, they did it wrong… that’s not what I’m talking about.
What I’m talking about in regards to a price that must be paid is… confronting yourself. Your ego, your insecurities, your fears, your shortcomings, your character… MUCH more terrifying than finding yourself lonely at the top if you ask me… if you’re lonely at the top at least you avoided doing all these things… but then again now you’re all alone up there so, uh… what else is there to do but to set your ego aside and start looking inwardly?
Now, let’s get back to that idea of the individual being the most sovereign ideology that exists. You’ve heard it before and now you’ll hear it again… the only person you can ever have full responsibility for is, that’s right… YOU. So, what I believe is the best way to change the world is to change yourself… and that’s why I might from time to time piss off rabid feminists who want the government to dictate morality via legislation. I believe the responsibility of morality and change lies with the individual. That’s it. You don’t have to believe that, but I do… chances are if you’ve read this far you do too… or at least it makes sense to you.
Want to change the world? Great! Let’s get working on you first. It’s simple, Jesus said it in Matthew 7:3 (and no, I won’t be preaching to you, regardless of what you believe about Jesus… He was a very wise Being and much can be gleaned from His words)… “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”. We say that to other people a lot just to get them off our back, but what does it really mean?
You were born for a purpose, we all were. Sometimes we don’t have a clue what that purpose is because since we were young we were conditioned to believe that our vocation was our purpose… and while you can certainly use your vocation to FULFILL that purpose, your vocation is not your purpose.
Back to Jesus for a second… have you ever gotten saw dust in your eye? I have… I worked for a tree service for a few years and let me tell you, that is a pain almost unequal to any other. Not because it REALLY HURTS… it doesn’t hurt in intensity, it hurts because your body won’t cooperate with you while you’re trying to remain calm trying to get it out! You can’t stop blinking, your eye is rolling, your crying and jerking your head around… you may even pull a scene from a comedy movie and run until you trip and fall or smack into something… but here’s the point… most of the time, you need someone else’s help to get it out and it hurts, it’s annoying… it might even leave you with some short term discomfort and fuzzy vision. At worst, it can permanently impede your eyesight.
So what if you’re that person who can get it out on your own? Good for you… you probably didn’t have a whole lot in there, did you… or, what’s more likely, you had someone teach you all throughout your training how to avoid experiencing that event, OR you didn’t have anyone to help you so you acted out of pure necessity. If the last one is you, I’m sorry… and here’s why I say that… it sucks not to have someone there willing to help you reduce the amount of time you’re in pain or discomfort. Especially when that pain is emotional, due to the frustrations and adversities of life.
That’s what this is all about. I have been through some shit in my life, you know this is true because when I was only 21 people told me I should write a book about my life. Well, it’s 2020 now and I’m 36 and “the shit” didn’t stop coming. In fact, I’m in the middle of a new storm right now, one I’ve never experienced before… and despite the fact I’m handling it pretty well, I still seek, ask for and have help. I’m still awkwardly holding my eye open to someone else qualified to assist and asking, “Did I get it all!?!”. No matter who you are, that’ll never stop. John Maxwell is one of the most accomplished experts on leadership in the world and he’ll ramble off a list of probably a dozen people he trusts to help him in various areas of life without a second thought. MILLIONS of people turn to him for his expertise, and yet he still turns to others for their trusted counsel. It never ends.
This is why I’m here. This is my calling. After years of people telling me I would be a great: Writer, Psychologist, Counselor, Lawyer, Salesman, Story-teller, etc… I’ve decided to listen, to part of it at least. The major catalyst for me being when a former counselor turned relationship coach gave me a nudge. You know when you do something in school that makes the teacher pull you aside to tell you that you better do something with that talent and not waste it? Yeah, that’s not what she was meaning to do but that’s how it felt… it was the wake up call I needed to nudge me off the fence and it was simple message “You should be publishing sooner than later. You’re going to be a great coach, easily one of the best”.
This is going to be difficult for me to write… not because I “don’t know what to say”, no… it’s difficult because it is incredibly important to me and here I am thinking about what I want to tell you, I don’t even know who you are.. and I’m having this reaction in my eyes where they have extra watery like substance threatening to build up in them. Why? Because I want you to be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be. Because I know how powerful it is to be a confident and WHOLE individual needing no validation from other people who may not have your best interest in mind. Because I know if you’re WHOLE you can be the man (or woman) everyone at work trusts… who your family trusts… who your spouse and children love and RESPECT. Because I know if you’re WHOLE when you put your hand on someone’s back who is hurting and you speak life into that individual who just needs to know there is HOPE in this world, you will change the world. One. Individual. at. a. time.
And now I’m crying. BECAUSE I KNOW THIS IS TRUE… I’ve been both the person needing to be touched, needing to be encouraged, needing someone to help me Master myself… AND the person who has been through the crucible, come out the other side stronger and able to put my hand on someone else’s shoulder to let them know there is hope.
So what’s the mission? Help the hungry… help the angry… help the tired… help the frustrated… help every single person I possibly can that is stuck in that rut wanting, YEARNING to overcome their challenge so they can become the best possible version of themselves. So they can be an ideal partner, so they can be a strong, secure, loving spouse… so they can be a great father, a great mother a great sister, daughter, boss, lover, colleague, student, artist, pastor, son or friend.
How? By pursuing growth. I’m not a psychologist, I’m not interested in psychoanalyzing you and discovering your hidden obsession with your father or mother and how that explains life. Maybe we’ll uncover some psychological wounds from your past that have paralyzed you and help you work toward finding the answer for that healing whether it can be discovered on your own or if you need the help of a licensed professional. My purpose is to help you THINK and help you establish a plan for growth as well as be a sounding board you can trust… one that’s not afraid to call you out and ruffle your feathers if it’s necessary.
I’m also not your mother or your father… I’m not going to ignore what you have to say then tell you what to do. I’m going to listen to you, I’m going to help you ask tough questions, I’m going to hold you accountable, I’m going to take into account your unique circumstances and provide insight, support and direction. Direction might be… read a book, listen to a podcast, go for a walk, right down your goals, be to work on time every day this week, stop letting your ex use you as a doormat… etc. I don’t have a cookie cutter course to offer you, you’re an individual and while there are certain principles of life and human nature we could argue are universal, how we digest, understand and apply them are individually unique to us and the culmination of our experiences.
You might be wondering what to expect here, so let’s spell that out…
As a follower, you can expect thought provoking posts on topics I’m seeing a lot of people dealing with at any given time. These are free, this is my contribution to people looking for some food for thought and looking for someone’s thoughts on those subject. If there’s something you’d like to know my thoughts on… send me a message on Twitter @RealMasterofMan, or by e-mail to Tim@MasterofMan.com.
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I look forward to hearing from you and helping you become your own Master of Man (or woman).